We all have felt different or left out of something, at one point or another in our lives. For some people, being an outsider is a part of their life purpose, not just a temporary circumstance. Many empathic people have felt like an outsider because society does not embrace vulnerability and feelings.
My own story
For many years, I resisted being an outsider. Being different meant something was wrong with me and I needed to fix it. I silenced my voice and people pleased to be accepted. I often gave much more than I received in order to gain others’ approval. At first, I felt it was worth it. Trying to fit in where I didn’t belong, left me unhappy. It wasn’t until I accepted and got comfortable with my isolation, I felt connected to a world of spirit and my own soul.
It is difficult and sometimes emotionally painful to feel outside of the norm, whether it is with your family, peers or society. There are many reasons to embrace your uniqueness, not just for yourself but for others.
1.) You see clearly. As an outsider, you see through the facades of other people, politics and institutions. For this reason, you maintain and strengthen your values because you aren’t manipulated. You discover dysfunctional patterns and break free from them.
2.) You live your own truth. Spending more time alone can be beneficial when you tune into your own thoughts and feelings. Whether you spend time in nature, write or meditate, you make time to listen within for what is true for you.
3.) Outside of the box thinker. Whether it is a family feud or workplace conflict, you see what the real issues are because you have the benefit of an alternative perspective. You may develop a resolution others can not see. Not only do you think outside the box, you often live outside the box. You choose alternative ways to work, live and love.
4.) You are different for a reason. Being created different is not a punishment, it is a gift. If being an outsider is part of your life’s purpose, find your unique life path and live your life. Your energy is needed in this world.
5.) Open to learning. Many outsiders are curious people who want to grow spiritually and emotionally. You are not interested in supporting the status quo and understand that change is not only good but many times necessary.
6.) Be a shining example to other outsiders and the haters. You are a leader, this is why you don’t fit in following others. Teach through your example. Show others how you can live a life you love and be who you truly are despite other people’s opinions.
Lisa Hutchison LMHC is a licensed psychotherapist and writing coach who helps sensitive souls not just survive but shine. She is the Amazon bestselling author of I Fill My Cup: A Journal for Compassionate Helpers and the kindle book Setting Ethical Limits for Caring & Competent Professionals. Get a FREE 10 page E-book; 8 Simple Things That Release Chaos from Your Life Now at http://www.lisahutchison.net