5 Unacknowledged but Useful Truths to Know about Self-Care

Self-care sounds cozy and pretty but often is not. It is made up of those routine moments you need to dig in deep and motivate yourself, when you would rather be doing anything but self-care. Sometimes, it would be a heck of a lot easier to mindlessly zone out on social media, watch marathon hours of TV, or eat a half gallon of ice cream out of the tub. If you find yourself here, no judgment. We all do what’s easiest when we experience extreme stress. If you are ready to incorporate self-care into your routine, here is what you need to know.

Self-care is not easy to do- Doing what is good for you emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually, often does not come easy. Setting boundaries, eating healthier, and managing your finances are not always fun or relaxing. These types of activities often don’t feel good initially but have long-term benefits.

Self-care takes practice and persistence. When you fall off the horse, dust yourself off and get up again. Self-compassion will become your best friend in moments like these. There is no shame in reaching out for counseling support to keep you on track.

In order to be successful with self-care, you need to become aware of the blocks and obstacles within yourself and in your external world. Once you are aware, acknowledge these and put your self-care plan into action. Self-care means taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings and actions. It is about embracing your vulnerability and being kind to yourself. If I sound like a broken record, this is not always easy.

You may lose some relationships- People who do not take care of themselves cannot support you in your self-care efforts. You may not notice this kind of relationship discrepancy until you set a self-care boundary. Do not allow other’s guilt or manipulation get in the way of your health and wellness.

Self-care is not selfish, it is self- FULL– It may feel unnatural to put yourself first or even include yourself on your list of priorities, when you are a caregiver or empathic helper. The more you take care of you, the more you can take care of others. We all need times of silence to process and integrate. Time away from others means more quality time together. Remember self-care is for everyone, whether you are a man or woman. We all need a little TLC.

Self-care does not require a lot of time– The more you devote time to self-care, it increases your productivity. When you feel better, you become more engaged and mindful with all you do. Take five to ten minutes each day in the morning or right before bed to engage in a relaxing activity, such as deep breathing, writing in a journal or mindfulness techniques.

The person who says, I don’t have time to do self-care, needs it the most. Do not wait until your body or mind breaks down before you start making your health a priority. Sometimes people say they don’t have the time, when they really don’t want to become quiet and sit with their feelings. Your emotional pain will not heal until it is acknowledged, felt and released. If you don’t make time now, when will you?

Self-care does not make your problems disappear- Self-care does not magically erase your problems or pain but it will help you cope better. It helps your body release stress and tension, which left unchecked can make you feel much worse. When the crisis has resolved, you will be able to bounce back quicker.

Activities involving self-care fill your cup. Self-care can help you gain a clearer perspective and detach from other people’s energies. This way you can focus more on what needs to be done in your life. Self-care can help you feel supported by yourself and others, which helps you feel less alone.

Lisa Hutchison LMHC is a licensed psychotherapist and writing coach. She works for caring professionals, who want to prevent or treat compassion fatigue. Her specialty is teaching stress management, assertiveness and boundary setting. Lisa is the Amazon bestselling author of I Fill My Cup: A Journal for Compassionate Helpers and the kindle book Setting Ethical Limits for Caring & Competent Professionals. Get a FREE 10 page E-book; Why Compassionate People Run Out of Energy and What You Can Do About It at http://www.lisahutchison.net

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10 thoughts on “5 Unacknowledged but Useful Truths to Know about Self-Care

  1. Dearest Lisa…. Self care is essential…. as we have found out… And your words again hold such wisdom.. It doesn’t make things disappear so true.. But it does help us cope better…
    I now take regular time outs, for me… Both in my spiritual world and creative one..

    Wonderful words of wisdom, we should listen to dear Lisa.. Thank YOU my friend…. ❤ ❤

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  2. Hi LIsa,

    Love your wise words about self-care, and you’re right about self-care not making our problems disappear. But if we treat ourselves well, then we will have the mental and physical ability to care for others. Thanks for sharing your wisdom, as always. Hugs 💗

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  3. Isn’t it funny how hard self-care is? A life-time of doing things “the other way” is what made it so, I suppose. Hope you are well, Lisa! Happy Easter Sunday. I hope that spring is springing and you feel the renewal of the times. ❤

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    • Hi Lorrie,
      It is funny! The human mind first focuses on the negative. It was very helpful when we needed to be cautious and survive, but in today’s world, it causes our mind, body and spirit much distress.
      We are doing well, thank you. Happy Easter to you, Lorrie! May you experience hope and the most positive of new beginnings.
      Many Blessings,


      • Thank you, Lisa. Yes…the old flight or fight response was necessary back when. I see so many people who are revved up in the fight all the time…and that stress is so bad for us! Here’s to peace, and love and light! 😉 Have a great week!

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  4. You’ve touched on some really important points, Lisa. And I particularly like the point you make about self-care meaning taking responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and actions. For some, that may be a difficult concept to relate to. But it’s also one of the best things we can do for ourselves. I’ve improved my self-care a lot this year; it’s a practice that’s always evolving. And I appreciate these truths as a reminder to keep at it.

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