How to not leave anything unsaid with loved ones

Death will touch all of our lives at some point, as it is a part of life. For myself, I learned about death when I was five years old and my Daddy died suddenly. I did not understand death, all I knew was he was here one moment and gone the next. My brother-in-law died when I was fifteen years of age, after three months of becoming ill. I learned early, why it is important to live life to the fullest and express my love to others. By the time, my Mom had her second severe stroke, we didn’t leave anything on the table. She died when I was thirty seven. I miss her but I don’t have any regrets. The same can be said with a couple of close friends of mine who have passed on to the other side.

These losses shaped how I view and live my life.  For example, I am an avid photographer because I enjoy capturing moments to savor later. During this time, I find myself cherishing these visual memories until we can all be together again safely. The most difficult part of social distancing is not hugging or being physically close to those you love. In this in-between time, we need to communicate our deepest feelings.

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Express your love verbally at every chance. Whether you have phone or video chats, tell your loved ones, “I love you.” Be vulnerable and open your heart.

“Be” with one another as much as you can- Talk about other topics besides the virus, politics and the supermarket. Although, these can be good ice breakers, dive deeper and be in the present moment with one another.

What do you personally need to say to your loved one? This answer may be different for each one of you. You may have said these things before but I urge you to say them again and again. If you are more comfortable with the written word, write your friend or loved one a letter or type an email.

Some wording to dive deeper can be:

  1. I love you- Express the warmth in your heart.
  2. Forgive me- Release regrets and move on.
  3. Thank you for__________________________. Express gratitude for who they are or what they have done.
  4. Remember when_______________________. Connect with fun memories.
  5. I admire you for_____________________. Be specific and tell them how proud you are of them.
  6. You have helped me with ___________________. Tell them how they have changed your life for the better.

Life is all about loving and letting go. At first, you may feel awkward having these types of conversations. Keep practicing, it will get easier and you will notice a change in yourself and all of your relationships. Give with all of your heart and you will never regret it.

Stay safe and I am thinking of you all.

Blessings, Lisa

Lisa Hutchison LMHC is a licensed psychotherapist and writing coach who helps sensitive souls not just survive but shine. She is the Amazon bestselling author of I Fill My Cup: A Journal for Compassionate Helpers and the kindle book Setting Ethical Limits for Caring & Competent Professionals. Get a FREE 10 page E-book; 8 Simple Things That Release Chaos from Your Life Now at http://www.lisahutchison.net

How to Boost Your Energy Vibration while Social Distancing

One of the biggest challenges for sensitive people is maintaining their energy in uncertain times. Living during a pandemic is incredibly stressful. In order to slow the spread or flatten the curve of the Coronavirus, we have been instructed to practice social distancing and stay at home.

Social distancing is a new word and practice for our consciousness in 2020. It is the practice of standing at least six feet apart from others, who are not your household members, when you have to perform essential travel outside of the home. This necessary practice has cancelled in person meetings and events.

Why it is essential to boost your vibration

An empath’s energetic system, when not properly maintained and protected, is porous, like a sponge. This makes it easy to absorb anxiety, outrage and depression from the people, places and things around you, leaving you feeling fatigued and your immune system vulnerable.

When you vibrate at a higher frequency of energy, you will feel healthier, calmer and happier. Those who take care of their personal energy, report more satisfying interpersonal relationships, a sense of belonging and feeling connected to the Divine or something bigger than themselves. When you boost your energy vibration, this helps you create a world you want to live in. One sign you are on the right track is an awareness of synchronicity because you are connected to Divine not societal energy.

How to Boost Your Energy Vibration while Social Distancing

You cannot control what happens outside of yourself, but you can choose to give your energy vibration a lift with these strategies.

  • Recognize and let go of your draining thoughts, emotions and images

Too much anxiety, guilt, depression and anger will impact your mood and energy in a negative way. Affective therapy (connecting to your feelings) and expressive art techniques can help you, along with other treatments to feel, release and shift your feelings.

Sensitive people can be more at risk to experience trauma through disturbing images and the news. With this information age, it is easy to encounter videos and social media posts you would rather not see. These pictures can remain in your mental field long after the viewing has taken place. If you are struggling with this, here are two blogs about the impact of trauma: We are Living in a Time of Trauma  and How Trauma Gets in the Way of Relationship Success

Faulty thoughts such as; I am not good enough, I should or I must do this, restrict your joy and lower your vibration. Cognitive distortions can be difficult to identify. If you find yourself stuck in thoughts, emotions or images, reach out to a licensed psychotherapist, who can help restructure these thoughts and specializes in post traumatic stress disorder. You can receive therapy from the comfort of your home via phone or computer.

  • Move on from the past

We are living in a new time which requires new habits. I know you miss traveling and hanging out with friends, I do too. At this time, we need let go of the old ways and embrace new habits.

Your mind can get stuck in positive or negative memories. We all have a tendency to remember the negative, this is known as a negativity bias. This bias fuels depressive disorders. Although people and places change, sometimes it is difficult to accept and see a new reality. When you hold on too tight, you miss out on the joys happening right now.  Forgiveness, mindfulness (the practice of being in the present moment), gratefulness and healing old relationship patterns will shift your energy for yourself and with others.

  • Let go of other people’s energy

As a sensitive person, you can pick up on other people’s moods or pain, in addition to your own feelings. When you help others during this pandemic, you may experience stress or trauma, making it difficult to separate what is your energy and what is others. Recognize the signs of emotion overload (compassion fatigue or burnout), identify what is your energy and what is other people’s. My publication I Fill My Cup: A Journal for Compassionate Helpers can help you identify these kind of energy drains and gives you some helpful information to replenish your vitality.

  • Release clutter in your physical space. 

Let go of old papers, clothes, books and other objects you no longer resonate with. Each item you bring into your home has an energy attached to it. This force can originate from the person who created it, packed it, unpacked it, delivered it or even the cashier.

When you bring something new into your home, disinfect and energetically clear it. Lite a sage or smudge stick to clear the energy.  Open a window and allow the smoke to carry the excess energy away from you and your home. If you have client sessions by phone or computer, clear the house as you end the work day.

Be well. I am here for you by phone or computer, if you are looking for a compassionate therapist during this stressful time.

Lisa Hutchison LMHC  is a licensed psychotherapist and writing coach who helps sensitive souls not just survive but shine. She is the Amazon bestselling author of I Fill My Cup: A Journal for Compassionate Helpers and the kindle book Setting Ethical Limits for Caring & Competent Professionals. Get a FREE 10 page E-book; 8 Simple Things That Release Chaos from Your Life Now at http://www.lisahutchison.net