5 Gift Giving Ideas that Protect an Empath’s Energy

Does the idea of crowded holiday shopping overwhelm you? You are not alone. Many sensitive souls avoid shopping in malls or large department stores because they absorb an onslaught of energy that is not theirs, leaving them fatigued. When empaths do shop in these situations they often go into zombie shut down mode in an effort to not feel. The problem is when you are not aware of the present moment, you can spend more money than you originally intended.

This is why my holiday shopping gets done early and online. I take back my power by choosing when to shop and do it from the comfort of my home. I mindfully choose and consider my options without feeling hurried or over stimulated. In an effort to reduce your holiday stress, I have come up with 5 gift ideas that are individually under $25 to purchase for your loved ones or perhaps you will treat yourself with a gift.

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5 Gift Giving Ideas that protect your energy

1.) For those who are cat and dog animal lovers, you can’t go wrong with Chicken Soup for the Soul books. In addition to giving a quality book, you are donating to the American Humane Society with each purchase.

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2.) Who doesn’t need stress relief? Perfect for any caretaker, empath or helper on your list and don’t forget the colored pencils. I love the built in sharpener with this kit, it reminds me of my old Crayola’s I had as a child!

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3.) Stock up on inspirational mugs with healing messages. This one here validates your favorite writer. Buy large mugs and combine the gift with her favorite tea or coffee.

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4.) Start Where You Are is an interactive journal designed to help readers nurture their creativity, mindfulness, and self-motivation. It helps readers navigate the confusion and chaos of daily life with a simple reminder: that by taking the time to know ourselves and what those dreams are, we can appreciate the world around us and achieve our dreams.

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5.) For those that are hard to buy for -a gift card fits all. Give the gift of freedom and allow your recipient to choose for themselves.

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Lisa Hutchison LMHC is a licensed psychotherapist and writing coach who helps sensitive souls not just survive but shine. She is the Amazon bestselling author of I Fill My Cup: A Journal for Compassionate Helpers and the kindle book Setting Ethical Limits for Caring & Competent Professionals. Get a FREE 10 page E-book; 8 Simple Things That Release Chaos from Your Life Now at http://www.lisahutchison.net

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Important information about how your senses get overloaded

In American culture, we need at least an arm’s length of space between us and other people in order to feel comfortable. As a sensitive soul, there are times you will need even more space than that. Your personal space is an invisible bubble that surrounds you. When you connect with someone’s energy that is groovy, you feel good. However, when you connect with a lower energy frequency, you can feel drained rather quickly.

Psychic invaders

As a psychotherapist and lifelong intuitive empath, I can reassure you that this type of personal space invasion is rare. I write about it because it happens and it has happened to me numerous times throughout my life. To clarify a bit, what I am writing about is not space invaders or invaders of the extraterrestrial variety.

Psychic invasions occur when another’s energy intrudes upon your energy field, when you are in danger. You will feel this sensation as a sudden twinge or cramping in your second or third chakra (respectively your reproductive area and stomach) quickly upon meeting them. When you recognize this signal within, leave as soon as possible. This is an indication that your gut intuition has been activated and its job is to keep you safe.

Other’s content

Empaths feel invaded by others energy on a daily basis. Due to your sensitivity, you pick up and feel whatever is around you. This includes other’s physical pain, depression, anxiety and anger. This type of constant inflow of feeling creates fatigue in an empath. This is why it is essential self-care to learn boundaries and protect your energies.

Enough to turn up your nose

Psychologically, the sense of smell is most strongly connected to your past memories and emotions. For this reason, anyone, not only sensitive people, can easily get triggered by a smell in a positive or negative way. People who suffer from post-traumatic stress can be transported back to traumatic memories from a certain smell. Some odoriferous offenders that overtake sensitive souls are smoking, spicy foods and fragrances.

Can’t touch this

Unwanted touching can range from irritating to inappropriate. Touches that bother sensitive people can include resting your arm or leaning against someone on a train or airplane to having certain types of fabric rub against your skin. Some people use touch as a means to intimate or control, such as in the case of sexual harassment or physical assault. These types of intrusions are against the law and should be reported.

A sight for sore eyes

Empaths have a difficult time with not only the sounds on the news but also the visual footage. Anything that is violent, hurts people or animals can invade a sensitive person’s space. Rapid images can also overload your nervous system sending it into a tail spin such as fast clips shown in certain movies or TV shows and rapid scrolling of social media newsfeeds.

When it is not music to your ears

Sounds can easily invade the personal space of a sensitive soul. These can include loud music, sirens, dogs barking, horns blaring, screaming and fireworks. Any sound that does not resonate with your personal frequency will disconnect you from your spirit.

Fascinating studies have been done by Dr. Masaru Emoto using high-speed photography which captured how crystals formed in water when specific thoughts were directed toward them. He found that water exposed to loving words and sounds showed beautifully complex, colorful snowflake patterns. While water exposed to negative thoughts, formed fragmented incomplete, patterns with dull colors. Overtime too much sound that does not resonate with you not only depletes you of energy but also puts your health at risk. I highly recommend this specific healing book and cd source, it is a favorite that I have used: Water Crystal Healing: Music and Images to Restore Your Well-Being by Masaru Emoto

What is a sensitive soul to do?

  • Have awareness of your personal level of space that you need.
  • Assert yourself when needed.
  • Learn to protect your energies.
  • Heal your energy when you are overexposed.

Lisa Hutchison LMHC is a licensed psychotherapist and writing coach who helps sensitive souls not just survive but shine. She is the Amazon bestselling author of I Fill My Cup: A Journal for Compassionate Helpers and the kindle book Setting Ethical Limits for Caring & Competent Professionals. Get a FREE 10 page E-book; 8 Simple Things That Release Chaos from Your Life Now at http://www.lisahutchison.net

How to Successfully Deal with Passive Aggressive Behavior

Empaths can read people really well due to their sensitivity. Yet, there is a personality type that continues to baffle you and yes sometimes even me. You know the type, a seemingly agreeable person who smiles and acts kind yet speaks with cutting remarks, misplaces or forgets important items or consistently arrives late. Passive aggressive behavior causes chaos in relationships and is an energy drain for everyone, not only empaths, due to their denial, procrastination, pouting, silent treatments and lack of responsibility for one’s emotions and behaviors.

The psychology behind this

This person is not evil, just scared. She or he has not learned how to express anger in healthy ways and most likely was shamed or threatened for any outward expression of this feeling as a child. There is a feeling of powerlessness, which is why this person seeks to have power in indirect ways. In order to feel safe, this person denies and represses the feeling. As the saying goes, what gets repressed gets expressed in one form or another. That is why the underhanded comments slip out, the tasks go unfinished or appointments are missed.

What can you do?

Step 1: Trust your instincts. When interacting with this type of person, it is difficult to put their resistant behavior into words. You know that there is a disconnection between what a person says and what a person does. You feel their hidden hostility, yet when you confront this person on their behavior she or he will deny it to the hills.

Step 2: Recognize the pattern. Many empaths go the avoidance route because you don’t know what to do. You will leave the situation politely but feel confused and exhausted. A part of my job is to teach you how to maintain your energy despite outside influences. Avoidance can be a good start although I would like to help you choose your behaviors from a place of power.

For those that get stuck in a dance of frustration or freeze because of an inability to detach from energy; begin to become aware of what is happening even if it is after the situation is over. Learn to see the patterns and refuse to participate in them. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again yet expecting a different result. You are the one who needs to change because they won’t.

Step 3:  Become like Spock. Remind yourself that their behavior is not personal. Do not react even though every fiber of your being wants to. Take a breather, walk away and practice relaxation techniques. Once you emotionally disengage and detach from the situation, identify that this person is angry and not you.

Step 4: Flood them with light and love. This is for the light workers and enlightened ones out there. The dynamics of a relationship can change from one person detaching. I have witnessed miracles in my own and my client’s lives when they are able to send blessings to those that trigger them.

Two ways to do this is imagine them surrounded in white light and pray for them. Don’t forget to give yourself the same kindness and compassion. This is not easy to do, if you are struggling with this one take heart that most people do not get to this level of being around difficult people.

Step 5: Learn assertiveness skills. For those relationships that are close to you such as family and friends you will want to come to a sense of peace and empowerment. A gentle but direct approach that focuses on the behavior is what works because these people fear confrontation and anger. If they suspect any type of perceived challenge or threat they will avoid and deny. In the end, you may handle the situation with the utmost tact and diplomacy and still the person denies their behavior.

Lisa Hutchison LMHC works specifically with sensitive healers who want to recharge and refuel their energies from challenging relationships such as these through phone counseling and angel card readings. I will address your specific situation and we will come up with a step by step plan to empower you for a future interaction. The more you step into your power, you will deal more successfully with this type of relationship dynamic without getting drained.

To break free from the chaos of relationship dynamics go to www.lisahutchison.net and help yourself to 8 Simple Things that Release Chaos from your Life Now!

The Truth about the 2 Types of Sensitivity

You are too sensitive! I heard that a lot when I was a child. Interestingly, I haven’t heard it at all as an adult. What changed? I learned to honor my sensitivity for the gift that it is. A part of that honoring lies in surrounding myself with people just like me. This world needs more sensitivity, let’s make sure we are joining together and flooding it with the best kind.

Your Sensitivity is Beautiful

Type 1: Empathy– This Divine gift comes from a deep sense of caring about others and feeling into their emotional or physical states. Empathy often manifests through psychic knowingness, visions and sensations. At times you may feel too much and become engulfed by the experience of empathy. You do not want to hide or get rid of your empathy, not like you really could anyways! After all, it is a part of who you are. You can protect and nurture this gift with proper boundary setting thereby decreasing overwhelm.

I want to give you a little heads up … As you grow older, your sensitivity will increase. I am not telling you this to cause anxiety but rather to give you awareness. This is not due to a failure in coping on your part but rather a spiritual progression of becoming more open. You can choose to look at this as an opportunity for learning new ways of protecting your precious energy, as I have.

Type 2: An Ego Imbalance– This kind of sensitivity comes from a sense of separation and presents as defensiveness and fear. Ego imbalances stem from psychological wounds that have not been addressed and are now getting projected outward onto others. You find this kind of imbalance with sensitivity in personality disorders such as narcissistic, histrionic, antisocial and borderline traits.

I have lived with both types of sensitivity. My step-father had an ego imbalance and I was born an empath, making our connection the perfect storm. I never knew what would set him off because anything could and it never made any sense. A lot of my time and energy growing up was spent trying to predict and avoid the conflicts that were to come. As an adult, I had to learn boundaries and detachment in order to not take on emotional responsibility which was not mine.

We all have both of these sensitivities, there is no judgment here. You need some ego for self-definition and you need empathy to have compassion for others. If you have type 1 you need to learn and practice self-trust through awareness, boundaries to protect your energies and assertiveness skills to voice your authentic self. If you are type 2 you need to learn and practice self- responsibility, relaxation skills and empathy.

More about Lisa Hutchison– Lisa works for empaths who often feel drained after their helping efforts refill and recharge their energy through counseling, writing and angel card sessions. As a licensed mental health counselor with over 15 years of experience, she helps sensitive souls not only survive but shine!  Get 8 Simple Things that Release Chaos from Your Life Now! FREE as my gift to you. http://www.lisahutchson.net