5 Powerful Actions to Love the Hard to Love

Right now, you can name at least one person who is hard to love. He or she could be someone who is self- absorbed, emotionally unstable or living with an addiction. Think of how you treat these types of people. Do you ignore, be little or think less of them? Are you harboring anger, resentment and guilt towards them?

When you consider this hard to love person, do you think of yourself? Often the most difficult person to love is the one staring back at us in the mirror. Empathic helpers freely offer love, compassion and kindness to others, even strangers. When it comes to giving to ourselves, we can become stingy.

If you are ready to take action. Read on.

Pray for these people and ourselves. Those who are on the spiritual path believe everyone is in our life for a reason. What do you imagine this person’s behavior is here to teach you? Imagine handing them over to a higher power or the light. Pray for their health and wellness. Pray for your own strength and patience. Remember you are not alone.

Offer them a personal healing intention. You can create a simple sentence or even a one word mantra to repeat internally. When you think of them, repeat to yourself the following words, “love” or “peace.” One of my favorite personal intentions is the Buddhist Loving Kindness Prayer. If you enjoy meditation, you may want to check out my mp3 meditation; Spreading Kindness.

May I be filled with loving kindness.
May I be well.
May I be peaceful and at ease.
May I be happy.

May you be filled with loving kindness.
May you be well.
May you be peaceful and at ease.
May you be happy.

ancient – tibetan buddhist – meditation

Forgive yourself and others. Forgive yourself for not knowing, being judgmental, for all the times you were stuck in your own pain, fear and bitterness. Forgive yourself for not seeing the truth or reality of a situation. Forgive others for their abusive behaviors, all of the times you felt disappointed and hurt.

Repeat the forgiveness process as neededForgiveness is like doing the laundry or washing the dishes, it is rarely completed after one time.

Stop spreading negativity through gossip or tarnishing their name or reputation. I get it, you are hurt. Spreading more hurt, keeps you stuck, victimized and in pain.

Increase you awareness and catch yourself when you think negative thoughts. Before you speak or act on these, just notice the thoughts. Next re-direct your thoughts and actions to something positive for yourself. If you are having difficulty shifting gears, cognitive and cognitive behavioral therapy, can help you with this.

Have empathy- Put yourself in other people’s shoes. You may not agree with their actions but you can come to a new understanding. Maybe this person is insecure, stressed or lonely? Remember there at times in life, you have been hard to love as well.

We can have a kind world, it all depends on how we treat ourselves and others. Choose love, kindness and compassion. It won’t always be easy, but it is worth it.

Lisa Hutchison LMHC is a licensed psychotherapist and writing coach. She works for caring professionals, who want to prevent or treat compassion fatigue. Her specialty is teaching stress management, assertiveness and boundary setting. Lisa is the Amazon bestselling author of I Fill My Cup: A Journal for Compassionate Helpers and the kindle book Setting Ethical Limits for Caring & Competent Professionals. Get a FREE 10 page E-book; Why Compassionate People Run Out of Energy and What You Can Do About It at http://www.lisahutchison.net

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The Liebster Award

liebster-award

 

I have to admit, I have not heard of the Liebster award before today. I am honored to be recognized by a fellow blogger at https://keepahappyheartblog.wordpress.com/  and nominated for it. Thank you Camy!

Here is what I learned from https://theglobalaussie.com/blog/liebster-award-2017/

The Liebster Award 2017 is an award that exists only on the internet, and is given to bloggers by other bloggers. The earliest case of the award goes as far back as 2011. Liebster in German means sweetest, kindest, nicest, dearest, beloved, lovely, kind, pleasant, valued, cute, endearing, and welcome.

I love that Liebster is a German word, you may not know this but a part of my heritage is from Bavaria. I do like the idea of spreading kindness to other bloggers through recognition. The choice is yours whether you chose to nominate others or not and nothing bad will happen to you if you do not. 🙂

To participate:

Acknowledge the blogger who nominated you which is me. Lisa Hutchison LMHC at https://connectingempathichelpersandartiststospirit.wordpress.com

Answer the questions I ask at the bottom of this blog

Nominate blogs you enjoy

Ask them your own questions

Here are the questions I was asked and my answers:

1.When did you start your Blog?

I published my very first blog on April 13, 2015 called  https://connectingempathichelpersandartiststospirit.wordpress.com/2015/04/13/six-simple-steps-for-awesome-angel-readings/

I have never missed a month since, publishing one blog post every month.

 2. Is there a specific reason why choosing WordPress instead of other providers?

When I decided to start blogging I asked my other writing friends which site they blog on. They all recommended WordPress for its ease of use. I have been very happy on the site.

3. Do you write just to inspire others through your Blog, or is there a bigger goal?

My hope is to inspire and educate others by bringing more awareness to compassion and empathy. I believe now more than ever we need sensitive souls to step up and lead. It can be difficult to manage your sensitivity in today’s world this is why I fill each blog with helpful tips.

4. Did you participate in any blogger training? Or, are you planning to?

Nope! I don’t plan to. Interestingly, I did not go to school for writing or take any classes. I teach many writing classes and am a writing coach. I have been told many times that writing is an innate talent for me, I believe they are correct. I allow spirit to work through me.

5. What type of Blog grabs your attention?

I like blogs that inspire me to think differently about myself and others.

6. How do you think is the best way to overcome a writer’s block?

I don’t believe that there is only one way. First you have to become aware of it and then do something different to change that energy.

7. Do you possess any other passion or talent besides writing?

Yes. I also enjoy spirituality, being a counselor and writing coach, traveling, connecting to like-minded others, photography, painting, animals, nature. I could go on and on.

8. Do you believe these Blog Awards can really help writers being discovered?

Anything is possible.

9. When you monitor comments on your Blog, do you allow criticism to be posted?

Yes, as long as it is constructive and not a part of cyber bulling. No trolls are tolerated on my blog.

10. Do you consider writing the best way for self- expression?

Even though writing is one of my passions, I don’t believe writing is the best self- expression for everyone. I worked as an expressive art therapist in a partial hospitalization program. I saw that some people could not read or write and others could not form phrases the way they wanted to.  For them, I would recommend a different creative art; singing, dancing, drawing etc.

And here are my nominees, I realize some of you may have received this award in the past. I want to give a shout out to you and your awesome work!

https://positiveprovocations.com/

http://www.debrareble.com/blog/

http://www.debraoakland.com/blog/

http://susanwilkinghoran.com/blog/

http://www.onesaltykiss.com/

http://healthnutgirl.com/author/rkieffer/

http://innerprosperityacademy.com/blog/

https://respectfocusedtherapy.wordpress.com

https://lorriebowden.com/

https://suedreamwalker.wordpress.com/

If you choose to accept and participate

Here are questions for my nominees:

  1. Where do you see yourself (and your blog) in 5 years?
  2. How did you choose your blog’s niche?
  3. What are three things you cannot blog without?
  4. What’s the favorite post that you’ve published? (Link, please!)
  5. Describe yourself in three words.
  6. What is something you enjoy doing besides blogging?
  7. What is one fun fact about you?
  8. What is on your list of top 3 destinations?
  9. If you could change something in the world what would it be?
  10. What advice do you have for other bloggers?

For more information on this award click here http://www.liebsterawards.com/q-a/

Why connection is important in today’s world

Why Connection is Important in Today's World

 

I have been more contemplative since the rally in Charlottesville VA, the death of 32-year-old Heather Heyer and now the flooding in Texas. I desire to connect more authentically with others yet struggle because I do not want to get drained by extreme anger, violence or anguish. Being a part of protests, rallies and marches are not for me because of this. Yet as an empath, I want to know more than what’s up; social niceties and small talk bore me.

I have come to a new acceptance that I am called to heal this world in a different way. This has been the story of my life, stepping out on my own to follow a path unknown. Instead of donating to the Red Cross for the Texas floods, I donated to a smaller company called Undies for Everyone which supplies clean underwear to the survivors of the flood. I connect with being a woman and needing clean underwear more than donating to a large organization.

Three Men, a child and a baby

I am overtaken by a lot of thoughts, after these events. Walking helps me process this energy. One day, I saw a man wheeling a stroller with a small child lagging behind him. As we entered the cross walk at the same time from different directions, I moved slightly outside of the white line for his young child to be in the cross walk. We smiled as we passed one another. I went into the post office, mailed a few letters and another man held the door open for me. I thanked him and held it for him in return.

As I walked home, I saw the same man who walked with his children. This time I noticed the drained looked upon his face as he folded and put the stroller back into his car. We smiled again but this time I said, “Have a good day.” In this moment, I witnessed an energy shift and his face brightened. Intuitively, I knew I gave him a gift and felt authentically connected. Lastly, another man mowing his lawn waved at me, I waved in return. After my interactions with these three men, I felt rejuvenated, hopeful and inspired to write.

We are one

We all need reminders in our struggles that we are cared for and not alone. When you connect to a person’s heart and soul, you recognize them as the Divine light we all are. These small acts of kindness are best if not planned. Don’t worry, intuitively you will know who to connect with, where to donate and what to do. When you allow spirit to work through you, you are guided. Trust you will be in the right place with the right people at the right time.

When you notice someone who needs an emotional lift, look them in the eye and speak from your heart. It can be something simple such as have a good day, a wave or a smile. Now more than ever we need reassurance that we are not one another’s enemies. This year we all have experienced heavy intense energies. The best way to cope is to shine your light as a channel for Divine love.

I would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section of how you authentically connect with others despite the extreme anger, violence and fear that is a part of our society today.

For specific ways to prevent your own energy depletion, contact Lisa Hutchison LMHC. She offers counseling and angel card readings by phone and in person to teach you how to rejuvenate and recharge your unique energy issues. I invite you to go to my website http://www.lisahutchison.net and pick up this FREE 10 page E-book 8 Simple Things That Release Chaos from Your Life Now!