How to be Peaceful in Any Storm

How many times have you wished you were in a different situation? Your storm may come in the form of unrest due to a societal or political event, a specific person who acts chaotic, an illness which disrupts your life, or even an accident.

While you are being tossed about by the winds of change, you look for a quick fix or solution to get out. We all have fallen into the trap of believing life will get easier when you reach a certain destination or goal. Do these thoughts sound familiar? I will be peaceful when I am rich, complete my degree, feel healthy or have better relationships. No matter what external force is causing disorder in your life, you can connect with peace now.

Your distress comes from within

Reaction causes an attachment to the person, event or circumstance and dis-empowers you. Many believe if I just can get my anger and outrage out onto someone else, I will feel better. Some psychological research indicates the more you sit with and express anger, the angrier you feel. Too much anger can keep you stuck.

Anger is a healthy signal indicating something within yourself needs to change, not the other person. People are more receptive to listening when you speak, calmly, from a place of power. Learn how to observe your feelings without getting enmeshed with them.

Peace, like happiness, is not achieved by focusing on what is missing or lacking. Your monkey mind’s thoughts jump around looking for scarcity, judging others and even yourself as wrong. When you wish or try to control others, you resist what is here right now. Let me ask you; What if you could be peaceful in this very moment, with all of its ugly warts and imperfections?

It is not the event or your current circumstances that cause overwhelm, but rather your thoughts, feelings and the stories you make up about it. You assign meaning because you are afraid of living in the unknown. Here is the kicker; sometimes the change you crave is the one you fear the most. If you could sit in this space, wisdom would emerge. Many times you avoid this experience and replay worn out scripts from the past.

What if… You could trust, you are where you need to be

Often when you stop and breathe, you acknowledge how safe and protected you are. There is a greater power at work. The truth is we don’t know what this moment is in the big picture of Life. This does not mean you need to sit around and do nothing. There are experiences to have and lessons to learn in this day. Accepting life as it is, heals you and allows new insights to reveal themselves to you.

Moving forward

Whatever is happening in your life or not, it’s okay. Embrace this extraordinary time and find your peace because it is right there inside of you, just waiting to flow.

You may also be interested in these blogs:

How Can I Get Happy?

How to Regain Balance When Your World Falls Apart

Lisa Hutchison LMHC is a licensed psychotherapist and writing coach who helps sensitive souls not just survive but shine. She is the Amazon bestselling author of I Fill My Cup: A Journal for Compassionate Helpers and the kindle book Setting Ethical Limits for Caring & Competent Professionals. Get a FREE 10 page E-book; 8 Simple Things That Release Chaos from Your Life Now at http://www.lisahutchison.net

25 thoughts on “How to be Peaceful in Any Storm

  1. Hi Lisa,
    Thank you for this well written piece of wisdom that I’m reading in a timely manner. All is good in my family..health, jobs, etc. even during Covid. But I am my mother’s daughter, so worrying comes easily. I’m trying to let go of some things because they’re not in my control. It’s a work in progress; I’m a work in progress. ๐Ÿ™‚ I resonated with many things you mentioned, and as we all know, peace and happiness are a choice. Things happen in life that cause hurt and pain and uncertainty, but it’s how we react and how we think that pave the path of our moods and spirits. Sometimes, I wish I could detach from certain thoughts. I do eventually, though. Anyway, we’re all human and you provide some beneficial advice, so thank you. And I wish you a peaceful weekend and am grateful for our connection as well. Lauren ๐ŸŒป

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    • We are a work in progress, Lauren. I sometimes don’t say or do the right thing at the right time, even though my intentions are good. In order to cultivate peace, self-compassion is a must.

      I find when I am having trouble detaching, it is because an old wound is triggered. I need extra time to dig deep in order to heal and release.

      You are welcome, Lauren. It is always a pleasure to connect. Thank you! Enjoy your weekend as well.

      Many Blessings,
      Lisa

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  2. Your post is timely for me and many…especially here in Florida where a leaderless governor continues to consider the well-being of the people who elected him. He continues with Phase 2 reopening despite drastic increases in CV19 infections.
    I appreciate the reminders especially “Reaction causes an attachment to the person, event or circumstance and dis-empowers you.” That’s why I’ve been taking one full day a week for a Facebook and news blackout and also not going online until 10am. (I broke that intention today to post my blog and comment here.)

    My constant prayers continue streaming for FL, our nation, the leaders, and all those suffering from this virus.
    #Staysafe #Stayhome #Wearamask

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    • Lore, I have been concerned about the leadership in states, like Florida. We have come down in cases here in Massachusetts. It is required to wear a masks in stores, doctor’s office, hair stylists etc. for quite some time now. I am happy to do so. What creates peace for me is to wash my hands, change my clothes when I return home and social distance when outdoors. I focus on what the scientists say rather than politicians, who have their own agendas. Since the pandemic started, I took one day off from Facebook a week and have continued the practice. I find it helps. Many Blessings for continued health.

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  3. If I have done anything during this lockdown and now adjusting to a semi-unlock, Lisa, it is to reflect on where my life has been so far and where I am going. There’s no point being angry unless one can utilize and transform that energy into something positive.

    The anger right now is over the creation of a virus that is wreaking havoc on innocent people. I can’t do anything about it other than keep my loved ones and myself safe and be there for friends on the phone or social media.

    It’s true, all our experiences happen to us to prepare for a future event where that learning will be useful.

    Thank you for the insightful post.

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  4. Lisa, your blog really touched me. It resonated in so many ways. Even after all my years of what i felt was self awareness, I still came across these throughs, whether is was me or me being an empath. I typically no longer view it as a storm, or I see the “storm” in a good, helpful, and positive way. Having peace, love, joy and happiness it so worth it. We are so worth it. Life is worth it. I did find that too much anger can build up, especially in someone who is sensitive. It can lie or remain dormant in our cells unless we decide to change. Self love, self compassion and even love from others facilitates change. Appreciate your timely post. I’m sure it will resonate with many others.

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    • I am happy to hear these words connected with you Heather Maria, thanks! As an empath, we can absorb other’s anger. This can disrupt our inner peace. Awareness is so important in this regard. All our storms are for a higher good, even though we may not see it in the moment.

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  5. Thank you Lisa for your wisdom again here.. We can all at times fall into that trap… The best of us will question, as we feel tossed in the storm of emotions…
    Only recently I felt the same kind of turmoil… Until I breathed my way through it, allowing it all to wash over me..
    We all need to experience, and for a time I allowed that experience to swamp me…. Until I observed just what it was I was doing to myself…
    All is as it should be.. So I allow myself to go within the flow…. Breathing deeper…. releasing the need to be in control.. While not being controlled…

    Being empathic is a journey we discover not all feelings are our own.. And with practice and self love, we learn to navigate through learning to observe, while not taking in the emotion deep within our hearts.. We feel it, acknowledge it, and experience it.. But we learn not to hang onto it..

    This recent Lesson and episode within the world has been yet another experience and deeper learning process… But its been one that is preparing me for even deeper lessons to come..

    Much love Lisa…. Always wonderful to read your thoughts and insights my dear friend..
    ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ™

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  6. To me, Lisa, happiness is a “learned” state of being. I loved reading your wisdom and it resonated strongly. I am very very sensitive to anger and have taught myself how to protect and to disengage from it. I’m not always successful but the longer I practice the better I do get. I also must admit the present day circumstance brought many very deep and powerful emotions to the surface, anger included, and I had to learn how not only to acknowledge them, accept them as a part of me, but also how to transmute them into peace. Those emotions once acknowledged actually made me stronger. No longer am I being held a prisoner by them! Being angry or with any lower emotion is so so draining and exhausting. When we exist in peace, heaven is revealed. Beautiful post and I thank you so very much for it!! xo

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    • A part of happiness is genetic, but gratefully a good portion of it is under our control. (Thank God!) I am glad this post connected with you, Amy. Being a sensitive person myself, I also know ways to disengage but there are times I get caught up too. Learning is good and does make us stronger.

      Thank you Amy, I enjoy reading your perspective and seeing your visits.

      Many Blessings, Lisa xo

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  7. Lisa thank you for your helpful insights especially in these turbulent times. We all need to find sacred practices to maintain inner peace. Many blessings of love Debra

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  8. Hi Lisa. I just have to say how I got here, lol. When you replied to my Youtube comment, I went back to the prior video and listened again. Then I was wondering why I wasn’t following your blog and followed the link from your static ad page and now I’m here and the little popup at the bottom right corner tells me I’m following your blog but I get no notifications. Just another weird WP thing. I’m re-following so I can keep up! I enjoy your channel. โค

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