How to Regain Balance When Your World Falls Apart

“Tough times never last, but tough people do.”-Robert H. Schuller

How to Regain Balance When Your world Falls Apart

From November into December, my sense of security was disrupted. I felt like a shaken snow globe and I didn’t know where all of the pieces swirling around me were going to land. It began with a sudden health issue. While I was going to doctors, changing my diet, taking medications and being prescribed more tests, I had some relationship conflicts and then a sudden death in the family.

The more I tried to control my health situation and relationships, the more my world fell apart. Like many empaths, I shifted into overthinking because the feelings of overwhelm were too much. This was not working. I began to develop a deeper trust in myself and the Divine. I am happy to report, I am feeling better and am optimistic I will continue to improve. Here are a few steps I took to regain equilibrium, perhaps you will find them helpful too.

1.) Admit this sucks. Being a spiritual person, I work to be positive. This isn’t about being cheerful, it is about being real. Sometimes you have to be in the sh**. You will let others down and you will not get to do all the things you want to, right now.

Remember, you are in a place of suffering, but it will pass. Everything in this world is temporary. When you accept and acknowledge this state of the situation, it often shifts.

2.) Accept the out of control aspects of the situation and look for what you can control. Dust off that Serenity Prayer and begin to use it. The only person you can control is you and your choices.

Educate yourself about this situation and ask professionals for their advice. Be aware of too much research, which can turn into an obsession. Get off the Google search engine and step away.

Take steps to nurture yourself. Go to bed early and keep a lighter schedule. Say no to others like never before.

3.) Pray for others and yourself. Often it helps to take the focus off of yourself and help others. Pick five people each day who are in need of healing. Pray for these people specifically by name and in detail. Take five minutes for this practice. This is more than writing a passing thought of care on social media, this is about Divine connection. You can pray for the same person multiple times a week or different people.

If you are stuck on who to pray for scroll through your social media feed to find friends, who are reaching out for support through their posts.

4.) Be mindful. Practice deep breathing and meditate daily. Relaxation practices support health and healing. Stay grounded in your body as much as you can. This will create an inner sense of security. Listen to your inner wisdom and act on it. You may also want to read 6 Ways to Reconnect to the Body & Feel Secure

5.) Seek out supportive relationships. You do not need a lot of people, look for one or two. If you have one or two people, who you can share your difficulties with, this will be a source of healing for you. When you begin to share with too many people, you receive a lot of unsolicited advice, which can drain your energy.

6.) Focus on what you have. Gratitude can be healing. Keep it to five things a day. You can combine this with a few positive affirmations. If this feels forced, go back to steps one through five.

Remember you will get through this, you are strong and you are not alone. 

If you need assistance, support or an empathic ear, I am available for psychotherapy,  spiritual coaching sessions and angel card readings.

Lisa Hutchison LMHC is the Amazon bestselling author of I Fill My Cup: A Journal for Compassionate Helpers and the kindle book Setting Ethical Limits for Caring & Competent Professionals. Lisa is a licensed psychotherapist and writing coach who helps sensitive souls not just survive but shine. Get a FREE 10 page E-book; 8 Simple Things That Release Chaos from Your Life Now at

14 thoughts on “How to Regain Balance When Your World Falls Apart

  1. I am delighted to read you are now in a better place of thinking dear Lisa. Sometimes we experience the unexpected that tilts us off balance, I often now can look at these episodes as tests that remind us to practice what we preach..
    Being Empathic our emotions are very often easily heightened as our emotional bodies take control as we ‘over think’ …
    Your descriptive steps to conquer our fears and bring ourselves back into alignment are wise steps more of us should take heed of..

    Like you one of the reasons I took a break was to give myself some breathing space, its very easy to slip into the main-stream of conscious-thought-patterns that are constantly being projected via the Media.. And it took me a long while in the past to see not all thoughts were my own.. And that we are often ‘Feeling’ others pain, that then all too often can manifest into being our own..

    So the steps you have shown here are very good ones.. And I have focused more of my energy into my creative projects which have as a result calmed and brought about that Inner Peace of being so thankful and full of gratitude for those gifts..

    Sending you dear Lisa much love, May 2020 bring about the needed changes we all of us need to make to bring about Change in our inner worlds that lead us to create changes within our Outer World..

    Have A Joyful, Happy, Healthy and Peaceful New year my friend..
    Stay blessed.. ❤
    Love Sue ❤

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    • Thank you Sue,

      Healing takes us into our deepest layers. That is where I have found myself. I feel changed and it is true. You cannot go back to who you were before because you are now different. You need the space to uncover who you are right now.

      Feeling into others can take its toll. I have been there many times myself. I go on media fasts, only taking in small amounts to stay informed. Many clients and friends get caught up in the fear and anger, steering them off course. This can happen even to seasoned professionals. Like you, creativity and my spiritual practices have brought me a sense of balance.

      Sending you much love, light, protection and many blessings, Sue. Keep shining your light. I appreciate your presence and friendship.

      Love Lisa xoxo

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      • Thank you Lisa.. May we continue to take our media in small chunks, as we continue to nurture ourselves via our creativity …
        I certainly agree with all you say here, Here’s to remaining in our Balance and within that state of love..
        Love right back.. Sue ❤

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  2. So sorry to read you’ve gone through a really rough time, Lisa, and genuinely happy you’ve overcome the situations that life threw at you.

    Admitting things suck is empowering. Once you’ve accepted it, the rest of the journey to resolution is easier to navigate. The Serenity Prayer, gratitude and generally praying keeps us grounded while we work through challenging situations. Thank you for sharing your guidance.

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  3. As you have reminded us life can change in an instant Lisa and it is so helpful to have a list of nurturing ways to rebalance. I love your strategies and reminder that letting go of the expectation we can control the situation and others refocuses on what we can do – nurture ourselves through it! I am so glad you are feeling better and I am sending you so much love and compassion!

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