4 Unforgettable Life Lessons from Mom

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My mom was a teacher by profession.  It was not surprising that she taught me so many lessons about life.  As I am approaching the four-year anniversary of her death on August 31st, I wanted to remember four life lessons that she taught me and share them with you.

In March 2011, my mom had a severe stroke which left her partially paralyzed on her entire right side.  I felt devastated thinking she could no longer be the independent woman that she was.  She had many deficits and needed a wheelchair.  That first night, I could not imagine her new life or my own.   In my visits from March 2011 until August 2011, she taught me a lot, including these four unforgettable life lessons.

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  • Be in the present moment. I learned from this experience to focus on what we have.  Both of us were grateful for the capabilities she had and for the time we spent together.  She did not dwell on her losses but focused on being with me in the moment; first through writing then through talking. This crisis made it clear what was important in life; that was being together.

 

  •  To be connected to your own spirit and that of the Divine.  My mom often talked about her faith in God, even before the stroke.  After the stroke, she expressed to me that she thanked God every day that she was alive through prayer.  She had a great faith in God and what God could accomplish in her life.  Prior to her death, we were shown one miracle.

 

  •  To have acceptance.  Mom taught me that no matter what your circumstances are that you can enjoy your life.  She accepted her condition with peace; she did not let it affect her mood or positive attitude.  When her physical rehabilitation ended, I thought she would have had a setback because she gave it her all.  Instead she accepted it gracefully.

 

  • To remain curious.  Mom was open to learning.  She signed up for all sorts of activities at the nursing home and would tell me all about them.  In turn, she wanted to know all about my life since our last visit.  Limitations did not stop my mother.  She was determined to find creative ways to accomplish tasks that many stroke victims would do on their own.  She was an inspiration not only to me but also many others.

These practices did not heal her condition, although they freed her spirit.  Mom naturally expressed a positive attitude, which was never forced or feigned despite her challenges and hardships.  Her body was handicapped yet her will was not.  She never gave up on living that is my greatest lesson of all.

For that I thank you Mom,

With Much Love and Gratitude,

Your Daughter Lisa xx

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30 thoughts on “4 Unforgettable Life Lessons from Mom

  1. Lisa–Such a lovely lesson here in finding the joy in whatever circumstance! As I work with women who live with chronic pain, grief, trauma, and depression I often emphasize looking past (supposed) limitations and redefining what wellness/healing means. As you said, the choice of how to view your situation might not heal your condition, but by not letting that condition limit you, you allow yourself to be open to new opportunities. We live in a society that values perfection (a nonexistent entity) and sees anything imperfect as disposable. It’s high time to change that paradigm and acknowledge the value in everyone.

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    • Kathleen thank you for your comments. Bravo for taking on such challenging work! I find life so much more rich and rewarding by viewing people’s spirit rather than their shell, a part of the work I do. It would be wonderful to change that paradigm. ❤

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  2. Lisa, your Mother sounds similar to mine. I lost mine 10.5 years ago to painful, aggressive cancer and yet she remained positive and strong throughout her battle. We can learn a lot from these women. Thank you for sharing such a heart-felt post.

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  3. Lisa, thank you for sharing these beautiful lessons from your Mom. They triggered such a deep sense of gratitude for the lessons I learned from mine. Like Kindness Junkie, Mom died from an aggressive and painful cancer at the end of last year, and maintained a gracious inner strength throughout her brief illness. How blessed were we to have shared this life with them. ❤

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    • You are welcome, Pamela! Sorry for your loss. I love how we( you, Kindness Junkie and myself) could all be open to the gifts and blessings despite the emotional pain. Thanks for your comments xx. ❤

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  4. What a sweet, touching post and tribute to your mother Lisa! My mother and I are separated by thousands of miles (I’m in America, she in India) and I often think to myself ‘What would mom say in this situation?’ I’m so glad you got to spend those precious last months with your mother and gather all her wisdom for yourself and for generations to follow after you. Big, tight hug.

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  5. Lovely posts ladies. I have a rather different way of looking at loved ones who have passed, to me they are not gone, in fact they are those lovely memories and voices that you hear in whispers when you need some advice or inspiration, it is our spirit that is the real essence of what we are and that never dies. With love in our hearts we are free to learn know and to be enlightened by all that there is, I think our loved ones were so in tune with that in their later years, that is why they always seem so happy in our memories or in those photographs…

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    • I agree Simon! I believe my mother’s spirit lives on and we are always connected. I receive many messages, nudges and reminders of that. Perhaps a future blog post for me? Thanks for your comments.

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  6. Hi, Lisa! What a lovely way to recognize your mom. I love the four lessons you shared, especially the first tip about being in the present moment. It’s so easy to look behind or look ahead (often with worry or regret) – and not appreciate what’s going on right now in your life. Thank you for this beautiful post! ~Jill

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  7. So wonderful, Lisa, and lessons we can all apply to our own lives right this minute. What a beautiful person and relationship you had with your mom. I hope you feel her with you today and always as love doesn’t know any boundaries, even in death. Thanks for sharing your wonderful story with all of us.

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  8. Thank you for writing this, Lisa. It brought so much to me. My mother lived with the “disabilities” of a stroke for many years before she died. She was not able to find the strength within her to create something beautiful in her remaining years. I learned so much from watching her pull back from life. I was able to be with her yet not to bring her to what I felt was possible. That too was a lesson for me. I celebrate her spirit and feel her love.

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    • Laurie, you are welcome. I can’t even imagine what your mother and mine lived through. It is a debilitating disease. At times, I felt helpless being a witness to the effects of it. Your Mom would be proud of you and how you stood by her. Thanks for sharing your experience. Sending you a big hug! XX

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